People with BPD diagnoses or BPD-like traits are, in my experience, likely to be victims of severe child abuse, and so I find it very hard not to be sympathetic with them.
I feel the same sympathy towards people with obvious Asperger's Syndrome traits that I've met throughout my school years (I was in special ed when I was young, but I've seen students even in college who fit the classic AS profile perfectly) and in some jobs.
I used to try to befriend them, but I've met some Asperger's adults who desperately want to make friends but can't hold a two-way conversation even with trained therapists, and it makes me feel sad to know that such people exist.
I'm sympathetic towards Aspies, although they are probably very difficult to get along with. I think I knew one once, but he was a real asshole! He was cold and rude, like a machine. He wasn't very nice at all and there was no way whatsoever to connect with him. But could he help it?
The problem with BPD is it is one of those mental illnesses that turns you into a totally, 100%, fucked in the head asshole! I mean, they are not nice people at all.
My friend said the Borderlines start fights in every group session she was are in with them, and they destroyed every session, forcing it to end early.
Sooner or later, one or more of the Borderlines would be screaming at yelling at the top of their lungs, out of their chairs, threatening to hit people, throwing shit.
My friend befriended one, and the Borderline latched onto her like a lamprey and would not let go. They would go out to eat and the Borderline would ask if they could "Bring the kids." That meant invite her fake "alters". Those were her fake other personalities. They love their stupid alters, and they are snide about us poor souls with only one personality - we are "singletons", they sneer.
This Borderline would suddenly lurch into various fake personalities with no warning.
At a nice restaurant, she broke out dolls, put them on the table, and brought a coloring book and sat there and colored the whole time and talked like a little girl. After a while of this BS, my friend was like, "Fuck you!" and tried to run her out of her life. Then the Borderline was calling my friend all the time in the middle of the night until my friend had to change her phone number.
This is all pretty typical behavior.
They're lousy friends, totally self-absorbed and fucked-up, who fall into a totally "insanely needy but I hate your guts" thing with every relationship they get into. They're so crazy to have in therapy that there are therapists out there who refuse to have anything to do with them.
It's true a lot of them have been abused, but in a lot of cases, it seems like they just made up the abuse for some stupid reason. 85% of Borderlines are female, and male Borderlines tend to be gay or bi.
But some say that BPD in the male is simply diagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
If you have an NPD anywhere near your life also, I would advise you to run them out of your life or restrict contact with them. I know an NPD very well, but I have little to do with this person. They have caused a lot of damage to me in life, and when I'm around them, they try to cause more damage. I'm not buying whatever shit these people are selling. NPD's are six years old for their whole lives.
I need to do a longer post on NPD since I know so much about it having been around NPD's for years, but I need to be careful because people I know might get upset.
Frankly, if you don't have a personality disorder yourself, I would advise you or anyone like you to avoid the PD's. The PD's are some of the worst mental illnesses of all because they make a person abrasive, self-centered and very difficult to get along with. A non-fucked up personality (which I'm proudly repeatedly dx'd with) is something to be cherished and maintained for life.
Mood, anxiety and even psychotic disorders (Axis 1) can often be treated. It's like getting a cold or the flu. People with Axis 1 stuff are like a basically healthy person who has temporarily acquired an illness of some sort, but at their core level (the personality) they are often very healthy.
That's the way I like to think of myself. Sure I have an Axis 1 anxiety disorder (OCD) but I really hate it, can't really help it, and will do anything to get rid of it. I spend a good part of my time getting outside of it enough so I can function and get along with others.
It's perfectly possible to some nasty Axis 1 stuff on top of a more or less healthy inner core. It's also possible to have an Axis 2 illness in your inner core but not have any overt Axis 1 symptoms due to it, though in time, lifelong personality disorders tend to lead to depression and often hypochondriasis in middle to old age. They can also cause anxiety and sometimes brief psychosis.
More often, they ruin your life and thrash the lives of just about everyone with the misfortune of getting close to you, while causing you to blame everyone else (the world, this person, that person) for all your troubles.
That's an essential feature. In the PD's, the problem is always other people, never in the PD person themselves.
Understand a PD always comes from a kid. It comes from your childhood - that's where it develops - and it flowers in adolescence.
Personality change in adulthood is not PD and is probably due to other factors, maybe Axis 1 stuff. Axis 1 illnesses can distort one's true personality and create a fake new "personality" that's really just the Axis 1 illness itself. Remove the Axis 1 problem, and "the old you" ought to come right back.
Keep in mind that personality itself is more or less cemented by late adolescence.
Therefore, the treatment goal with a personality disorder not to create a whole new personality. You can't create a whole new personality because you can't stop being yourself - you're always YOU for the rest of your life .
All PD's are just pathological styles that have mirrors in healthy styles. For instance, the pathological Antisocial or Sociopathic Personality has a mirror called Aggressive Personality (not optimal, but valued in modern capitalist America, especially in males).
The pathological Dependent Personality has a healthy mirror called Devoted Personality.
All of the healthy mirrors probably have some drawbacks, but keep in mind that healthy personality and PD exist on a continuum. I doubt if truly healthy personalities really exist. If you went through 20,000 Americans, you might find one healthy person. So really non-PD's are just healthier and less disordered than PD's, who are less healthy and more disordered.
Having a personality disorder is like having a genetic condition that is hard to treat. When you have a cold or the flu, you can often comfort yourself knowing that you are basically healthy deep inside.
Not so with a PD. The essential self is damaged. Worse, the person is blinded to that fact, blames every one else, sees nothing wrong with themselves, sees no need for treatment unless forced into it and then tends to drop out or deliberately fail when shoved into therapy.
You want to be a WHAT? I'm just asking. I've been freaking out all day over this article. It's hard to comprehend that there are people who are this weird.
I can handle the self-harm emo idiots, though I think it's unbelievably stupid.
When I meet these burner and cutter morons, I sometimes tell them flat out to their faces what stupid fucks they are. After all, they deserve it. If they feel bad about it, I go easy on them, but if they're proud of it, I lay into them hard.
The conversation usually goes like this.
We're sitting around with a bunch of people when one of these stupid young women says with an evil smile on her face, "I'm a cutter. I cut myself today."
I give a look like she picked the dog food out of its bowl on the ground and is stuffing her face with it. Then I stand up, point my finger and her and ask, "You know what?"
"What?" She asks.
"You're a stupid fucking asshole! You cut yourself, you moron! You're an idiot!"
Usually everyone else starts getting freaked out and telling me to sit down and shut up by that point. Then I usually get up and leave.
In Oakhurst, there was a club of idiot young women who were cutting themselves. They called themselves "Oakhurst Cutters" or something. They were also proud of their psych dx's (Why would anyone be?) and all the drugs they were on (Why would anyone brag about that?). The most prominent psych dx was obviously Borderline Personality Disorder, and they were often on atypical antipsychotics.
You guys out there, if you know any BPD females, just get away from them. Actually, that applies to women too. Nobody needs to have people like this in their lives. Let the Borderlines make friends with each other, except they can't. For all you Borderlines out there, I'm sorry you are so fucked up and mentally ill, but you really need to get help, you know?
When your mental disorder turns you to into an idiotic child doodling in coloring books at a nice restaurant with dolls sitting on the table or a person with God knows how many fake personalities you fade into and out of all the time just to be a walking freak show, or when it turns you into a screeching, raging freak-o, I mean, why should anyone associate with you? Especially when you're doing it all on purpose?
BPD has to be the worst mental disorder on Earth as far as tolerating the person. I had a friend who was in the early stages of paranoid schizophrenia. I hung out with him about every day for a year, while everyone kept telling me to get the Hell away from him. I wasn't scared of him.
I was trying to read his mind (to try to gauge what he was thinking to see if he was dangerous) all the time anyway, trying to figure him out, and I always felt secure. We used to get in arguments about the voices coming out my car radio even when it was turned off, but all in all, he was a pleasant and interesting fellow, ultimately with too many problems for me to deal with though.
I have a friend who's involved goes to mental health group therapy stuff. She's bipolar, and I can (barely) live with that. She likes to regale me with the latest tales of the horrible Borderlines in her group, who are despised by everyone in group. My response is always the same. I shake my head and say, "Hell, just take em out and shoot em." Then I laugh uncontrollably, because I think that's a hilarious thing to say.
When I do this, no one else laughs, and everyone looks at me like I'm a monster.
Good.
I really wonder how many of these idiots are Borderlines? And I wonder if the DSM is going to recognize Body Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID)?
BIID website, for the "transabled". How weird can you get? This is really disturbing!
It's also a paraphilia. It's tied in to sex, of course, and most sufferers are males, like a lot of really disturbing mental conditions.
There's also a paraphilia for the (probably guys) who get turned on by amputees. They prefer legs over arms, single limbs over multiple, and stumps over no stumps.
There was a porn star named Long Jean Silver ( biography here, adult content) back in the 70's who was an amputee. She had a stump for a leg. I recall references to her stump. Good-looking blond. I saw some of her movies, but I can't say that the fact that one of her legs had been hacked off turned me on. It was kinda gross, actually.
They have their own sicko websites and a whole list of abbreviations for what kind of amputations turn them on or that they desire for themselves.
The whole thing falls under the rubric of attraction to disability, which is some sort of a paraphilia. Wiki has a huge article about it, which is weird because I'd never heard of it before.
Then there are the legions of fakers out there, the disability pretenders, screwing it up for all the real hardcores who are dying to chop their fingers and legs off and have sex with women's stumps and whatnot. These clowns pretend to be disabled, use canes, crutches and wheelchairs, etc.
Now this I am more familiar with, as this is sliding into the territory of hypochondriasis, which unfortunately I have experience with, as I've known some hardcore hypochondriacs very well.
With some of the pretenders, they start maneuvering into hardcore territory by causing tissue necrosis via cutting off their blood supply. I'm familiar with this too, as it's heading into Munchausen's Syndrome. That's really weird in its own right.
I recall this one Munchausen's patient who kept showing up in hospitals with infections. They finally figured out she was diluting her own shit with water and injecting it into her veins. I've heard of dopers scoring some shit to shoot up, but that takes it to another level.
Boxing Helena (1993) is a movie, supposedly well-done, about a surgeon with this weird fetish who kidnaps a woman after her car accident, chops both of her legs off, and then later chops both of her arms off. The whole time she is being a ballbreaking bitch and telling him what an impotent wussy weenieboy he is.
Hmm. That's probably why he chopped her limbs off in the first place. I've had a few women treat me like that, and for sure I felt like taking a machete to em, though of course I never did.
Later she falls in love with him, I guess because she always thought her arms and legs were ugly anyway. Now he's got some female human caterpillar or whatever to have sex with, so I guess he's happy too.
I heard there was some guy in a large US city some decades ago who was a four-limbed amputee. They called him Caterpillar Man. Of course, this is why skateboards were created, so Caterpillar People could move around town. He figured out how to lie down on a skateboard and ride around town, and he was quite a sight to see. The story was that he was one mean SOB though, and he screamed and yelled at everyone around.
If I was a Human Worm never to sprout wings and turn into a Human Butterfly, I guess I'd be pissed too.
Then again, there's always the circus.
A disability devotee or "devotee" is one who desires a disabled partner. Abasiophilia is a paraphilia for those who desire partners who limp, are on crutches, carry canes, are in walkers or use wheelchairs. When an abasiophiliac sees a neck brace, spinal brace, leg brace or prosthetic limb, he gets a hardon.
Whatever.
Abasiophilia was a lot more common back in the staid 1950's than in our twisted and evil 21st Century. That was at the height of the polio epidemic, and there were all these hotties hobbling around with leg braces, and a lot of guys got hooked and couldn't quit. Wow, that is too weird. Of all the bad things polio did to the human race, it also created a generation of perverts. Good God.
Crash (1996) was a famous movie along the same lines. There are weirdos in there who get turned on leg braces, scars on the body, violent and deadly car crashes, and all sorts of sick, messed up stuff. Pretty soon all of the leads are having sex with each other, gay, straight and otherwise.
The film ends when the lead deliberately crashes his car so he can damage his and his girlfriend's bodies, I guess so he can have the ultimate petit mort or something.
Fortunately, I never subjected myself to either Crash or Boxing Helena.
It's never too late in life to add a new perversion to a man's list, but I think I'll pass on all this weirdness.
Although I am actively trying to promote a type of disability fetishism called glasses fetishism. I know there are legions of women out there who get all week-kneed thinking of doing it with us four-eyed fuckers. You all just need to come out of your shells now. Nothing to be ashamed of.
We are venturing into the weird world of clothes fetishism. These are almost all guys. Here you have the idiots who break into women's apartments and only steal their underwear and guys who get jobs at shoe stores so they can caress feet all day.
My Mom worked for a psychologist once and this weird shoe fetishist used to call up now and again pretending to seek treatment. Then he would start in asking my Mom what kind of shoes she was wearing as his breathing got labored. He was a barrel of ticks; he kept the whole office laughing.
Sexmaniacman tells me that many women (mostly young women 18-35) have an uncontrollable leather fetish. If you're a young, sexy, good-looking guy, get yourself an old beatup 1950's James Dean leather jacket and then strut around and act really hard, tough and somewhat menacing and intimidating like Marlon Brando in The Wild One.
He says he wore that jacket out to clubs and concerts all the time and women, total strangers, were always drooling and rubbing their hands on his jacket as they moved past him. Worked great on a date too, sort of like Spanish Fly woven over your chest. He insists that leather turns young women into animals.
I always thought it was horrible that the Nazis took the mentally ill out and shot them, but after meeting some Borderlines and these BIID idiots, a single bullet sounds like the best cure of all.
Right. Hell, just take em out and shoot em. Why not?
A diabolical cabal stalks Wikipedia. It monopolizes the editing, breaks every rule in the book and then enforces the same rules against everyone it doesn't like, throws people off for no reason, and then hilariously pretends to be objective.
Wikipedia, from the sleazy porn merchant God in Flesh Jimbo on down, is like a conspiracy-riven Arab dictatorship. Nobody's honest, nobody's decent, everyone's corrupt, and you never know when it's going to be you with the knife in the back mumbling, "Et tu, Brute?"
Essjay, a top Wikipedia administrator, has resigned after a wicked mailing list was uncovered that revealed top administrators plotting to break rules to keep their nefarious activities shrouded in Cheney-like secrecy.
He also cleverly faked an entire persona as a university professor, gay, living with a partner named Robbie, with a cat named Mia and a lab named Ami.
He made up the following degrees for himself: Bachelor of Arts in Religious Studies (B.A.), Master of Arts in Religion (M.A.R.), Doctorate of Philosophy in Theology (Ph.D.), Doctorate in Canon Law (JCD). He rapidly made his way up the Wikipedia ladder. At the end, he held the following positions, despite his massive fraud:
Administrator, En-Wikipedia
Administrator, Wikiquote
Administrator, Meta-wiki
Administrator, Wikimedia Commons
Checkuser oversight
Bot Approval Group
Handles user renaming requests
Bureaucrat
Bureaucrat
Official Freenode Group contact
Owns and operates Vandalism Control Network
Chairman of Mediation Committee
Election official, Board of Trustees 2006 election
17,000 edits
He appeared to have absolutely no life whatsoever outside of editing Dorkipedia 14 hours a day, and many wondered how he was able to handle a full teaching load at the university in spite of this.
When he was finally uncovered, the slimeball Jimmy Wales defended Essay's fraud.
Figures.
Hey Jimmy Wales.
You're a dick.
Essjay is gone. That big black box suggests that he is dead, and for a moment, my heart leapt to the skies. But unfortunately he's only been killed from Wikipedia .
This exercise in mass corruption is insanely hailed the purest form of democracy in modern society. Fine, maybe it is. In that case, give me Stalin. I'd probably stay alive longer under him anyway. Stalin may have been a bastard, but he was never a crook.
As of today, I am on record as supporting the Hispanic Scholarship Fund 100%. Surely there are many legal Hispanic immigrants and Hispanic citizens who come from modest means, yet show great promise as potential university students. An organization like this helps poor, bright students to achieve their dreams and be an asset to society in spite of our criminally expensive post-secondary system.
Blog dedicated to illegal immigrants currently ripping off the broke state of California by going to our universities without paying the foreign student fees that everyone else has to pay.
Yep.
California really is that stupid.
If you're an honest foreigner and admit you are a legal immigrant to the US, you have to pay out of state or foreign student fees to go to university here in the US. If you come from another state of the US, you need to pay out of state fees.
If you lie and invade my country like a criminal, sneaking in here in violation of our laws, you get the royal carpet treatment. You don't have to pay out of state fees, and you don't have to pay foreign student fees either.
Hell, why not just waive the fees altogether? Let all the illegals go to school for free, and make the real Americans and the legal immigrants pay through the nose. That's about where this lunatic state of ours is headed. California is writing the book on insane with all this illegal alien coddling.
The folks who run this blog are apparently illegal immigrants at UCLA. They are obviously highly intelligent, and they probably behave quite well. They'd probably be an asset to society, except they broke all the damn rules and cheated to get in. That's not fair to everyone who did it right.
It's dedicated to their misnamed Dream Act, which I hope is never passed. And yeah, it is amnesty, by the way.
If they only wanted to pass the Dream Act, it might be tolerable. But they want to legalize all the illegals, and that would be a complete catastrophe. A poster here notes that illegals are now being forced to turn into con artists to sneak in here. Wow. I thought the whole idea of being an illegal in the first place was a gigantic con, with US society as the butt of the joke.
I'd really like to know the whole agenda here. OK, we legalize 12-20 million illegals, and insure that another 40 million chain migrants are coming in later. After a disaster like that, what do you do for an encore?
Ok, so now what? Secure the border? What's to stop more illegals from pouring in? I have a sneaking suspicion that almost all of these illegal alien activists really support Open Borders. Prove to me that they don't.
I supported the Dream Act until 1½ years ago when I moved to a city totally overrun by Mesoamerican illegal immigrants. Now I oppose it with every fiber in my body. I will say that if this town was full of folks like the undergrads running that blog, I'm not sure if I care. Those undergrads are not typical illegals, and that's the whole problem.
It shouldn't be real difficult for them to head back to Mexico and enroll in a university there. If you ask me, Mexican universities are actually more demanding than American ones, at least at the BA level. I think Mexican universities are even free. What's stopping you all?
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