We Love Yale Sluts

Updated August 23. This article was published earlier, but I am republishing now since I found a cool photo to go with it.

A most interesting event occurred around January 21, 2008, in front of the Yale Women's Center at 1 AM. A group of men pledging the Zeta Psi fraternity (a mostly athlete frat) posed in front of the women's center with a sign saying, "We Love Yale Sluts". They then uploaded the picture to Facebook.

Here's the photo that caused the imbroglio at Yale. Actually, I think this picture is pretty humorous. I'm fully sympathetic with the female students who are pissed off about this though - it's important to recognize that women are extremely offended and enraged by things we guys blow off. They see it as misogyny, and I guess they've got a point. It's surely in poor taste all right.

Thing is, I used to look at tons of Internet porn. I must say that your average Internet porn site is much more misogynistic than this stuff. I don't know what point I'm making here, but this seems like small potatoes to me. On the other hand, I'm a male, so this stuff doesn't really hit home for me. I guess I don't get it. If you're trying to succeed with women, why be a sexist asshole?

It turned into a great big brouhaha. The Women's Center promptly threatened to sue for sexual harassment and mischaracterized the initiation rite. They said that the group stood in front of the Women's Center and chanted "Dick, dick, dick, dick!" and blocked the door as woman after woman, mostly rape victims apparently, tried to come in for counseling.

The facts:

The incident occurred at 1 AM and the center was closed. There were no women coming to the center that got their way blocked, and there were certainly no rape victims. Rape victims hardly ever go there anyway, and there are few of them on campus anyway. They weren't chanting, ""Dick, dick, dick, dick!"; instead they were chanting "Deek, deek, deek, deek!" That's the name of a rival frat.

Nothing has happened since the Women's Center threatened to sue. They never attempted to contact the frat in any way, and the frat attempted to contact the WC many times. The leaders of the frat issued at least one formal apology.

Apparently the lawsuit never came, and on April 30 Yale found the frat not guilty of intimidation and harassment charges relating to the incident. The guy who held the "We Love Yale Sluts" sign in the pic is a football player whose Myspace page is here.

His name is Gio Chistodoulou and he claims he deeply respects women and had no idea what was on the sign he was holding. He says he thought it said, "We Love the Yale Women's Center and All the Services It Provides".

So. Do you think he's lying?

A female, Jessica Svendson, claimed that she tried to enter the center but was blocked by the group of men shouting "Dick, dick, dick, dick!" She was so terrified by the word "dick" (I guess because she's never experienced one) that she had to enter through the back door. Except that the center was closed, so how could she have gotten in anyway? She tried to appeal the university's decision but was refused.

In an earlier incident, a group of male fraternity pledges stood in front of the same Women's Center and chanted, "No means yes, maybe means yes, yes means anal!" over and over. Lot of women didn't think that was too funny either.

The comments after these Feministing posts are interesting and encouraging. I sympathize with the anger and disgust towards these guys that these women are experiencing. They are calling these guys all sorts of names that they seem to deserve. That's ok. I agree this was a pretty fuckwad thing to do. On the other hand, I think a lawsuit sounds pretty ridiculous.

Anal is the New Oral?

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Updated August 23:

The anal sex fad, fed largely by pornography, continues. This is an interesting article on the fad as it plays out amongst upper middle class and upper class White yuppies, the only people most magazine journalists ever interview for any story, because these are the only people they ever know.

Ever noticed how every Time or Newsweek Magazine article interviewing "ordinary Americans" always interviews doctors and lawyers? Same with most other magazines. Same with way too many movies. Highly-paid journalists don't know any working class people, so the vast majority of our media tells the tales of the upper middle class and upper class.

Anyway, back to the article. The article deals with some not very good acting young males who are having sex with women and more or less acting like pigs about it. I thought that their comments were out of line, though truth be told, ladies, a lot of us guys are basically just pigs (actually, I'm more of a dog than a pig, but you get the picture) and a lot of us do talk this way about you all when you're not around.

The comments at the end are great, especially the furious comments of the women. I was actually cheering these women on when they were laying it into these guys. I don't like feminazis, but I like a woman who stands up for herself and her gender. It's complicated.

They described the men in this article with the following words:

Boys; horrible; asshats; mindless brutal and unfeeling animals; immature; sociopathic; rapists; pigs; closet cases; disgusting; assholes; frat boy mentality; awful; misogynists; objectifiers of women; sadists; disrespectful; dickblisters; rape apologists; horrific; pro-rape; low-lifes; disgusting excuses for human beings; loathsome, tools.

A number of the women said basically, hey, if you guys like it so much, let us to it you, and see how you like it! Some samples that I thought were humorous:

If men are so enamoured with anal sex I say buy your female partner a strap-on and experience it for yourselves.

I tell my husband if he is willing to let me do him with a dildo, then I will let him try anal sex. Same with a blow job, no big thrill for me there either, and it is a little demeaning. I tell my husband, when he shows me he can ram a banana down his throat 10 or 20 times without throwing up, then I can too! So, you big strong men, put up or shut up!

The only man who has the right to "demand" anal sex is the one who just took a large dildo up the anus by the woman whose anus he is "demanding" to screw.

I asked Sexmaniacman about the article and this is what he said:

Thanks, Bob, my good friend, for letting me comment on this subject. To tell the embarrassing truth, I've jerked to countless fantasies and porn videos featuring anal sex (That's men doing it to women, thank you very much!). On the other hand, I've hardly done it much in my life.

I did it to this one woman once. With the same woman, I also used to stick my finger up her ass while we fucked. She used to do the same to me while I fucked her, and I really did not mind it. I never even asked, I just started sticking my finger up her ass, and she started doing it to me during our endless sex sessions.

One time I was with this beautiful Korean woman I picked up in Koreatown. We went back to my place and she was giving me a great blowjob. Just as I was about to cum, she stuck her finger up my ass, fingernail and all, and massaged my prostate gland! That was one great orgasm, I tell ya!

I later told some guys about it at work and they acted like it was sort of gay or something of me to do that. My attitude was fuck you guys. I'm screwing a beautiful woman, and there's something gay about that?

At one point, when I was feeling really sick and perverted, I bought a dildo and used to stick it up my ass. It's a weird feeling, and it causes some bleeding. I still like to stick my finger up my ass from time to time, and I have a girlfriend now who makes me do it so she can watch. She really gets off on it!

I haven't tried anal with her yet though. I have my doubts about it, and I'm worried it loosens the sphincter muscle so you can anal leakage. I don't want that for myself, and I'm worried about causing it in women. I think there are a lot of medical issues with this kind of sex that are pretty dubious. Straight sex and oral are a million times safer.

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Those Latin Lovers

Frequency of orgasm by nation (!)

More polls like this!

Who wins? You had to ask? Italians! Rudolf Valentino, Sophia Loren, Robert DeNiro, Isabella Rossellini, Leonardo DiCarpio.

Runners-up? Those nasty Slav fascists in Serbia, Montenegro and Macedonia. Something about that hot-blooded Mediterranean race?

Number 4? Nasty, evil Jewish Zionists from Israel! Ew, gross! Boo! Hiss! I always wondered where Jewish women got this reputation for being frigid. Not my experience. Wonder why they get off so much? Nothing like the terror of a Hamas or Hezbollah rocket landing on your head in the middle of the act to really get you into a rip-roaring mood for the petit mort?

Most frigid? Chinese, Indians and cold Finns. Finns are too depressed to get off and it's too damn cold to screw most of the time anyway, though I can't think of a better way to warm up. As far as the Chinese and Indians go, I guess that's where centuries or millenia of ultra-misogyny gets you. They're so terrified of their women's sex drives, they've tuned them down to near-zero. Way to go, guys.

The bit about men faking orgasms is downright bizarre. As Woody Allen says, everyone of mine has been right on the money. When we don't come, it's painfully obvious to everyone. Women bitch about having to fake it, but at least they get to fake it.

Figures about lifetime never getting off for women seem low. I've heard it ranges up to 20-25% even in the US.

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Muslim Polygamy = Woman Shortage?

A rightwing lie about Muslims. Polygamy is not even common in most of the Muslim World anymore, and it's mostly found in either the Gulf or places like Afghanistan. Even there, I think it is not that common. In the rest of the Muslim World, it is rare to absent. A number of secular Muslim countries have even banned the practice with progressive laws.

This nonsense is part of theory designed to explain why so many young Muslims are blowing themselves up. It's because of all the polygamy, which means there is a woman shortage, so they can't get married or laid. The resulting frustration turns them into auto-exploding human devices.

Show me the evidence that there is any woman shortage at all in the Muslim World, much less one due to polygamy.

The only places in the world that have woman shortages are in India and China, and in both places, it is due to abortion of females. No one is blowing themselves up because they can't get a wife in those places.

Riddle me that.

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